Are you feeling convicted about a friendship or relationship in your life. You probably feel that way for a reason. In this post we will explore six definite signs God is trying to remove someone from your life.
One of the most difficult parts of following God is having to leave certain people in the past to properly follow after Him.
Our spiritual growth with God can depend on our willingness to surrender certain individuals and situations to Him; even when it hurts us.
I am no stranger to how indescribably hard it is to part ways with people whom we love. When we’ve been given the wisdom to understand Jesus’ love and sacrifice for us…We want so badly for our loved ones to experience it too. But Sometimes thereโs nothing we can do to help them see.
If thereโs a persistent lack of harmony in your relationship, or this person is leading you to sinโฆGod will place conviction in your heart, encouraging you to leave, take a leap of faith, trust His plan.
Here are 6 signs God may be trying to remove someone from your life.
1. There is no peace
Of course It’s normal and healthy to have disagreements with your partner/friends from time to time. But when you notice that you feel more stressed than at peace within your relationship, it may be a good indication that somethingโs wrong.
Relationships should be a place where you feel loved, comforted, supported, and understood at all times.
This Bible verse in 1 Corinthians describes the attributes of godly love:
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
2. You feel emotionally drained
One thing I noticed in my last relationship was that I felt like I was walking on eggshells during every serious conversation with my partner.
I could never bring any grievance to him without it opening the door to conflict, and I would spend my time away from him stressing about the fact that I couldnโt be open and honest about my feelings.
Relationships are supposed to be an emotionally safe place and you shouldnโt be afraid to discuss any of your feelings with your partner/friends.
When youโre feeling emotionally drained, it can be to function your best in other areas of life, and it prevents you from putting your faith in God.
We know God is not the author of confusion, so the kinds of feelings are generally not from God.
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
1 Corinthians 14:33
3. Your Spirit feels convicted
If you feel convicted about certain aspects of your relationshipโฆ God wants you to feel uncomfortable for a reason.
For example, the Bible is very clear that sexual immorality is something God wants us to avoid. So if youโre in a dating relationship and this is a sin youโve been committing, God wants you to turn away from it because it is a sacred thing meant to be experienced within marriage.
Many of us donโt realize this until we invite God into our lives and begin seeking holiness, but itโs our job as followers of Christ to turn away from anything that defiles us.
Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing. For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.
2 Corinthians 7:9-10
4. They don’t take accountability for their actions
Accountability is a vital component to maintaining health in a relationship on both sides. Both partners/friends must be willing to listen and own up to their mistakes so the integrity and respect of the relationship can be maintained.
If your partner/friend tends to deflect blame, changes the subject, or acts insensitive toward your feelingsโฆThey are not creating a safe environment for you to speak your mind.
We all make mistakes but God wants relationships to be founded on love.
These six things doth the LORD hate: yea seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
Proverbs 6:16-19
5. Communication is difficult
Open and honest communication is an essential part of any successful relationship whether it be with family, friends or a romantic partner.
You should always feel free and welcome to express your feelings about anything within a relationship and your partner/friends should welcome it.
If you find yourself walking on eggshells, and obsessing over the right words to use to keep your partner/friend from getting upset with you. That isnโt a person whoโs willing to listen with humility and softness of heart.
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath
James 1:9
6. They don’t bring you closer to God
The word of God is very detailed about His beautiful design for godly relationships, and how they should be centered around glorifying Him.
If your partner is not bringing you closer to God, then youโre in whatโs considered an unequally yoked relationship.
These relationships can be dangerous to the life of a believer because it keeps an open door for sin. Your partner will also not be able to understand your convictions if they donโt have the same level of reverence for God as you.
That being said, itโs extremely important to be aligned in core values. Aligned values create cohesion and a common goal to be striving for that holds both parties accountable and to a certain standard of love. When both people are striving daily to be more like Jesus, thatโs a recipe for success.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
Proverbs 27:17
Why You Need To Leave
If you feel like one or more of these points are true for your relationship but you donโt know how to leave, keep these things in mind.
Godโs plans for you are good:
As much as leaving behind people we love can absolutely suck and hurtโฆGod wouldnโt be asking us to leave if He didnโt have better in mind for you. He loves you and desires for you to experience the fullness of His love by trusting Him.
I was in a toxic relationship that was preventing me from focusing on God with all my heart and walking on the path of faith I knew He desired for me.. If I hadnโt left I wouldnโt have started this website, and I wouldnโt be as close to God as I am now. Trust Him!
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Jeremiah 29:11
God operates on faith:
Something that has always stood out to me in the gospels was how Jesus healed people โaccording to their faithโ. The people who sought out Jesus and believed in His power were the ones that experienced profound miracles in their lives that inspired many.
If God is asking you to leave this person, consider the fact that He may be asking you to step out in faith for a reason.
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
Hebrews 11:6
If you donโt leave, you may miss out on the good plans He has for you:
God knows everything we will do before we do it, Heโs God after all. ButโฆHe gives us the free will to decide whether to trust Him or not.
We get to choose the path of faith or fear, spirit or carnality and reap the effects of whatever we choose.
Remaining in a relationship that does not have Godโs approval will likely create unnecessary hardship for you that God never intended you to face. While missing or delaying the better plans He had envisioned for you if you had chosen to operate in faith instead.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
James 1:14-15
But I love this person, can they change?
Absolutely, but many won’t. In order for someone to undergo sincere and genuine change, they have to be willing to submit to God, and seek a personal relationship with Him.
God says we will know them by their fruit, a.k.a: their actions, their words, and their receptiveness to recognizing their wrongs.
When the Holy Spirit is present in someone’s life, it should be evident because it’s the power of God working within them.
We all have the free will to decide to act on Godโs attempts to reach for us, but we can’t force anyone to make this decision to seek Him.
Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
John 14:6
How To Be Strong When It’s Time To Go:
I think it’s important to keep in mind that God is with us every moment and He can see the totality of our thoughts, emotions, and struggles. He can also see the amazing plans He has for us when we choose to obey His will and trust in His perfect plan.
Leaving will be hard but this person will never be able to give you the kind of true love you desire (and deserve) as long as they donโt have God.
Trust in God’s purpose and plan for your life, even when it hurts!
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