Want to know how to improve your relationship with yourself so you can live a happier and more fulfilling life? This post is all about how you can love and appreciate yourself better!
Life is busy, demanding, non-stop, and overwhelming. If you’re like many, you probably spend an abundance of time pouring your best into the relationships around you…
But you may have one extremely important relationship that habitually gets overlooked…
She’s been there since day one, through every high, low, sunshine or rain life throws at you. She can be your biggest fan, or your toughest critic. This girl deserves the world but doesn’t always acknowledge it… She is…you!
Maintaining a positive relationship with yourself is essential because it affects all areas of your life; including your perspectives, emotions, and actions.
I think we can all be a little too hard on ourselves sometimes and trust me; I’ve had to fight through my domineering self-critique too.
This post will give you some practical strategies to help you improve your relationship with yourself. So you can get back to being that beautiful, confident and remarkable woman you really are!
It’s time to get introspective! Here’s how to improve your relationship with yourself in 7 easy ways.
How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself
1. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Perfectionists…Life wasn’t made to be perfect (I’m speaking to myself too). Having the ability to laugh at yourself can go a long way in your overall relationship with yourself. If you tend to over-analyze yourself it makes it harder to enjoy the experiences life presents.
Life wasn’t made to be taken too seriously! When you can embrace the idea that we’re all just here to learn, you can enjoy the journey more.
When you’re learning a new skill or experiencing something new, allow yourself to enjoy the journey instead of holding yourself to the standard of how you should be doing.
And with that being said, be brave enough to try new things that interest you! Do that thing you’ve been wanting to try out for a while… Kickboxing! Dancing! Sky Diving!
Just do it. Enjoy every step of the process and be happy that you’re bold enough to desire more out of life.
2. Set Healthy Boundaries
One of the healthiest things you can do for yourself is setting healthy boundaries and having standards for the way you want to be treated.
This starts with truly understanding your self-worth! Knowing what you deserve garners a better sense of identity, builds stronger self-esteem, and allows you to be clear on your values and beliefs.
I love these two quotes about this idea:
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.” – Robert Holden
“You treat others how to treat you.” -Stephen Covey
How insanely true are those statements?
Take some time to sit down to assess the boundaries and truths you value. Work on staying true to those standards when dealing with yourself and other people. Putting boundaries into place will drastically improve your relationship with yourself.
3. Make Time For You
Between the daily rush of work, family life and everything else going on it can be hard to make time for the things that make you happy.
The kids will surely let you know what they want at all times, but what do you need? To maintain a positive relationship with yourself, It’s essential to designate time to prioritize your own needs and interests.
Let others know when you need “you” time to protect and prioritize your mental health. When you’re constantly caring for the well-being of everyone around you, you need to make sure you’re filling your cup too.
You can’t give out what you don’t have yourself!
This means that you need to learn how to say no sometimes. When you tend to be a people pleaser, this can be a challenging task; but it gets easier.
Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty when you have to say no and set that boundary from time to time. You deserve to have time for yourself too.
Go get your nails done, mama, or read that book you’ve been dying to read.
4. Be Kind To Yourself
What does your inner monologue say about you? Is she kind or judgmental about every little thing you do? Is she realistic or overcritical?
The little voice inside your head affects your relationship with yourself big time, so it’s important to keep your inner critique in check. You should be talking to yourself like you’re your best friend. Because, well, you’ve been with you through everything right??
It’s perfectly healthy to be reflective and honest about your shortcomings and faults, however, when that voice changes into constant negative self-talk, it can be detrimental to your overall wellbeing.
When you wake up in the morning, tell that girl in the mirror that she’s strong, beautiful, and worthy of love! Spend some time appreciating all that you’ve overcome in your life and how you continue to remain strong despite life’s trials and challenges.
You’re valuable and should know that God loves you and created you for a specific purpose.
5. Spend Some Time Alone
Spending time alone is definitely not the easiest feat when you have a never ending list of responsibilities and obligations at home, work and everywhere else. However, it’s necessary to designate some time to just be with yourself every so often.
Spending some time alone can help you reconnect to the things that make you happy and allow you to make decisions for yourself… Instead of always trying to appease the greater good (a.k.a your family).
Alone time will give you the chance to check in on your mental health and give you a much-needed break from all the pressures of life.
Arrange for a day you can take yourself on a date and treat yourself. Self-care isn’t selfish and will help you maintain a strong and positive relationship with yourself.
6. Prioritize Your Health
The way you take care of your body has HUGE implications for the way you feel physically, mentally and emotionally. Prioritizing your health is the best way you can show yourself love because happiness largely stems from how you feel on a day to day basis.
The food you eat is directly related to your mental and physical wellbeing so if you’re eating junk food all the time, chances are your body is not receiving what it needs to thrive.
Many of the health issues people are facing today are rooted in neglecting physical exercise and not eating natural foods.
Speaking from personal experience, I’ve dealt with much higher levels of anxiety and mood swings when not eating well and when I fail to exercise regularly.
After making these positive changes in my life, I can personally testify that it has made the biggest difference in how I feel in all areas of life.
Prioritizing your health can look like:
-Making healthy meals
–Limiting coffee or alcohol consumption
–Taking supplements to balance out your body
-Taking time to exercise
-Getting enough sleep
You will be amazed with the difference in how you feel if you choose to make your health a priority in your life.
7. Get Off Social Media
Spending too much time on your phone can be extremely damaging to your self esteem and can eat away at your precious hours in the day.
The truth is that people only present the version of themselves that they want you to see. And It’s easy to get swept up into illusion that some people just have it sooo good. But the truth is that social media never shows people’s whole reality.
Don’t compare yourself to others! There’s only one you for a reason.
Our brains are also not designed to get stimulated by new imagery every 10-20 seconds. Being absorbed in the never ending void of scrolling can deplete your natural dopamine levels and decrease your brains ability to maintain concentration.
Set limits for yourself and choose to do activities that provide value to your life instead of watching life happen through a screen. You’ll notice a massive difference in how you feel mentally and emotionally because your brain will be more balanced out!
In conclusion…
Always remember that God loves you and He wants you to have a healthy and loving relationship with yourself! Here are some of my favorite scriptures that remind me of how special I am to God.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10
How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee. Pslam 139:17-18
Thy mercy, O Lord, is in the heavens; and thy faithfulness reacheth unto the clouds. Thy righteousness is like the great mountains; thy judgments are a great deep: O Lord, thou preservest man and beast. How excellent is thy lovingkindness, O God! therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of thy wings. Psalm 36:5-7
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