9 Patient Mom Tips to Utilize When Your Kids Are Driving You Crazy

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This post is all about how to be a more patient mom.

Hey Mama, want some strategies to help you be cool, calm, and collected when your kids are driving you up a wall? Being a mom can be an extremely challenging job and sometimes it can be difficult to chill when the kids are going crazy and the house is a catastrophe.

As Mamas’, we have a big responsibility to teach our children how to react to all situations with as much patience, grace, and level-headedness as possible.

How we react and respond to situations will affect them all throughout their adolescent and adult lives. So it’s important to try to behave how we would expect someone else to respond to a difficult situation.

In the unpredictability of life as a mama, it’s a good idea to have some secret weapons in your arsenal to call on when things get a little too stressful and you’re at the end of your rope. These strategies have helped me to develop better habits in coping with the imminent impatience that comes with being a mom.

When all you want is a cocktail and a nap… And all you’re getting is screaming kids and a never ending mess. Remember these 7 strategies on how to be a more patient mom.

How To Be A More Patient Mom

1. Pray

God should be the One we reach for first and foremost in all of life’s circumstances and especially when we feel like we’re not measuring up as mothers.

Regular communication with God and spending time in the scriptures helps us to grow to be more like Jesus. And it helps us radiate His love in our own lives. When we develop the fruit of the Spirit… We’re able to be less provoked when things go awry and more patient under stressful circumstances.

When really should be asking “What would Jesus do?” every moment of our lives.

God loves when we’re specific about the areas of our lives we need growing in and He is more than willing to help us transform our hearts to be more like Jesus’. So when your kids are going nuts and you’re starting to lose it, take a deep breath and ask God for help to help you be a more patient mom.

2. Take a timeout

Who said timeouts were just for kids? Sometimes moms need a minute to take a chill pill too.

When the kiddos are just going insane, sometimes it’s best to just step away for a moment. Step outside and take a few deep breaths of fresh air or go give yourself a pep talk in the mirror.

It’s always better to just go and regain your composure instead of flying off the handle and reacting impulsively and with unkind words. Taking a timeout will give you a moment to assess the situation on your own and come back to handle it in a more level-headed manner.

You can set a good example for your kids by choosing to remain calm under stressful circumstances. And coming back to talk to them when you’re able to communicate more effectively and calmly.

3. Identify your triggers

Becoming more aware of your feelings/emotions will help you to hone in on what exactly your kids do to make you blow your top and react negatively. Being mindful of what exactly sets you off will assist you in identifying these things when they’re happening. And help you to consciously take a different approach when handling them.

Trace it back to its root and take some time to journal about why it upsets you. Then come up with a plan for how you’ll handle it better the next time it happens.

4. Fill your cup too

Have you ever heard that analogy about the airplane? Where the flight attendant instructs you to put on your oxygen mask first before assisting others. Why? Because if you run out of oxygen yourself, you can’t help anyone else with their oxygen mask.

It applies to this situation too. When you’re feeling burnt out, you can’t give what you don’t have.

Taking the time to implement self-care into your schedule can go a long way in how you feel day to day and how you react to stressful situations. Don’t be afraid to set some boundaries and don’t feel bad about it! Moms need a break sometimes to keep things running smoothly.

Take some time to go to the spa, get your nails done, or dive into that book you’ve been dying to read!

5. Scripture stickies

One cute idea you may find encouraging and helpful is writing down your favorite scriptures on sticky notes and posting them around the house. Keeping God’s Word where it’s easily accessible can remind us how God calls us to live. And how we are to replicate the heart of Jesus in all our interactions and behaviors in life.

Write down your favorite scriptures and stick them to your bathroom mirrors, fridge, and car speedometer. I love doing this!

The Word is like medicine to our souls. Reading the bible is proven to reduce stress and it can help diffuse our negative emotions when they arise.

6. Make sure to get enough sleep

Lack of sleep can largely contribute to anyone having a short fuse. Simply put, when you’re sleep-deprived you don’t function right. It can be hard to prioritize sleep when there’s so much to do but as a busy mama with a family to care for…It should be something you give precedence to in your routine.

Lack of sleep can contribute to a myriad of negative emotional effects including anger, frustration, irritability, sadness, depression and anxiety. When you’re already running on 0 it can make it harder to pull yourself out of those negative moods as well.

Make it a priority by creating a healthy bedtime routine for yourself. Turn your phone off early, spend some time praying or journaling, and take some deep breaths until you fall asleep. If you’re going to be a patient mom, you need your zzz’s!

7. Make sure you’re (all) eating right

What we put into our bodies matters. It’s not an understatement to say that problems that arise in the body and mind stem from not providing your body with the nutrients it needs to thrive.

Diet is a HUGE contributor to our overall well-being. And when you’re not eating a balanced diet full of real, whole foods…It will affect how you’re feeling physically, mentally and emotionally.

Sadly much of the food sold in grocery stores nowadays has chemicals and preservatives we were never meant to consume. This has some unfavorable side effects when it comes to our health, and mental wellbeing.

Look into the studies done on synthetic Red Dye 40. We have to wonder why this cancer-causing, petroleum-based, synthetic chemical is approved by the FDA and IN the food we eat and give to our children.

It’s the same case with trisodium phosphate. A chemical commonly found in paint thinner and cleaning products. Is a chemical found in the nutrition facts of almost every cereal in the aisle.

Synthetic chemicals are banned in many countries because of the harmful side effects they cause and how overall, are NEVER supposed to be consumed.

When we make more conscious choices about what everyone is eating…There will be fewer flare-ups from the littles and from Mom and Dad. God created the food we’re supposed to be consuming, and it was never designed to have so many additives and preservatives or be straight-up fake. It’s something to consider if anyone in your family is struggling to get along and remain even-tempered.

8. Try to see things from their perspective

Kids are learning about their feelings and emotions and sometimes they can get a little carried away. Kids have big feelings as they’re trying to learn between right and wrong!

When you’re able to take a step back and try to understand the situation through their eyes… You can gain new insight into why they may be upset and how to properly diffuse the situation.

Sometimes they simply won’t like or agree your answer. But at least you can make them feel like their opinion was understood. And you can give them a composed answer for why their behavior is wrong or won’t be tolerated.

Having the patience to listen to their side can make a big difference in positive and effective communication with your little ones. And it can help them learn healthier ways to voice their feelings and opinions.

So next time they’re having a meltdown…Try to calmly ask them what is making them upset and try to converse with them about their feelings instead of reacting.

Try to sympathize with their side and correct in love.

9. Think about how you want your child to remember you

How do you want your children to remember you down the road? Do you want them to remember you being a hothead that reacted negatively every time they make a mess… Or as a loving, patient mom who handled situations with calmness, grace and compassion?

It’s important to keep this in mind and strive to be intentional with how you handle every situation. It certainly doesn’t mean you’ll be perfect. But making a conscious effort to be your best is far better than allowing your emotions to get the best of you when the going gets tough.

It’s also vital to keep in mind that you are their most influential teacher when they’re growing up. Kids learn so much through observation and seeing how their parents react to situations.

Your words and actions will affect them throughout life and affect them into their adult years. Be a mom they can admire for how you handled things with love.